tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11443314.post7226942943603168613..comments2023-09-07T16:40:50.644+01:00Comments on God's Geek: Passing on advice - a dilemmaAmandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15073772030264084430noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11443314.post-56919125273293443502008-12-02T12:43:00.000+00:002008-12-02T12:43:00.000+00:00The seminar on reflective listening that you atten...The seminar on reflective listening that you attended sounds wonderful! I think we all need to learn WHEN it is time to listen and WHEN it is time to give advice. It's important to remember NOT to give advice UNTIL we have listened. Otherwise, we might be advising on the "presenting problem" and not the "real issue." We'll never know until we use reflective listening for a period of time with that individual. Even if we err on the side of listening too much (is that possible?!) it will surely help to compensate for all the times we gave advice without listening at all! <BR/>My husband and I wrote a book on this topic which you might find helpful as a resource tool and a follow-up to this seminar. It's called "Please Listen to Me! A Christian's Guide to Reflective Listening." It's not a text-book and is an easy read. It's published by WinePress Books here in the U.S. and they do ship overseas: www.WinePressBooks.com <BR/><BR/>Since you are in the U.K. I know that Eden carries it at http://www.eden.co.uk/shop/search.php?category_id=&keyword=Dick+Fetzer&x=23&y=8<BR/>The author is Dick Fetzer. <BR/><BR/>Would love to know what you think if you read it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11443314.post-27725525895530075382008-11-26T14:35:00.000+00:002008-11-26T14:35:00.000+00:00I tend to agree with your thoughts and Phil's. Yes...I tend to agree with your thoughts and Phil's. Yes there is time for thoughts and advice, there are times just to let people vent and there are times to help yp weigh up the options. To coin a phrase it's about being completely present to that yp at the time and see where it leads.Weird Hippyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05583825567754002918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11443314.post-19628222275704289122008-11-25T21:59:00.000+00:002008-11-25T21:59:00.000+00:00surely theres a need for both. i mean, we listen i...surely theres a need for both. i mean, we listen in different contexts. young people have different needs, and we can meet some of them and not others. sometimes a young person needs to be listened to, to have someone be truly present to them, not judging them, not junmping down their throat with advice, just giving them a space to open up and listen to themselves, and listen to God within them. BUT sometimes a young person needs advice, they need guidance.<BR/><BR/>maybe part of our role is to work out what need it is that needs meeting at a particular point.....<BR/><BR/>i don't know. just some thoughts that have come straight from reading what you wrotePhilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650338713106764515noreply@blogger.com